Looking Ahead

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I asked someone the other day if they thought that two souls could spend half their lives journeying towards each other…
Just to meet at the most opportune moment…
The answer: ABSOLUTELY!!!


Do we ever stop and wonder about how our paths cross with others?  I am almost convinced that our soul knows the connection before the mind ever formulates the idea.  How else can we explain the synchronicity of meaningful friendships and relationships?  I do know that people really do come into my life for good reasons.  Whether to teach me along the way or to show me something I otherwise might not have noticed; they all come with a purpose.  And the timing of these souls’ entrances into my world always seems so serendipitous.
Does this ever happen to You?
 I’m thinking about all the connections I have made over the past year through this Blog.  What attracts us to kindred souls and how is it that we can feel so at ease with these moments?  It is a very different way of creating friendships as compared to what was available to me as a girl growing up.  I don’t know whether I’m completely comfortable with this interface, but I do like getting to know people from all over the World.
  Simple as it is, we all have so much more in common than not.  When I hear about what is going on in the lives of the people I love, the long time friends whom I have been able to reconnect with, and even the new friends I’ve made here, I am always a little surprised to realize that we all understand what others are experiencing.  We can relate to one another.  Our hearts know.
Why should this be such a surprise?
It shouldn’t!
Even though we might not be all enduring the same circumstances, we are sharing expectations and experiences.  And this is where we can learn so much from those around us.




A World without judgement, one filled with the uplifting support of family, friends, and the community around us; that is the wish I have.


A Rose to Stop and Smell Along the Journey
I want to express my feelings about JUDGEMENT.
 I have experienced both sides of this.  As a younger woman, I used judgement as a cloak.  It was something that I thought protected me from my own insecurities.
Through the years, I have opened my heart and my eyes to the knowledge that Judgement hides nothing.
 It does however, create chaos and turmoil.
And quite honestly, it brings upon the one who delivers it ugliness.
I want to challenge us all to spend more time cultivating our own gardens of personal growth and Love.  Let us find less and less time letting the World know how distasteful and mistrustful we find others.
I mean quite bluntly, Live and Let Live.
Let’s untether ourselves from the past.
It’s gone!
This is Lola, my rescue.
  Once again, we can look to animals for the tangible evidence of unconditional adoration and Love.
 Here is Lola.
She is my 13 year old rescue German Shepherd.  I remember vividly the day I first met her.  She was barely 5 weeks old and had been attacked by a larger German Shepherd.  She was in need of extensive surgery due to puncture wounds on her lower spine and in her large intestines.  What I remember most vividly was watching her raise her sweet face to me as she let out a sigh of relief.  In that moment, she let me know that she was so happy I was there for her and that she would be forever loyal and faithful to me.  Over time, she replaced her fears with a strong and fierce Love.  And her love always comes with a gentleness, a kindness, and her undying desire to bring joy to me and my family.
It is what I intentionally give back to her in kind.




Looking forward, yet still being fully present in the now moment is a habit I am continually cultivating.  For me, it always begins with breath work.  I consciously focus on my control and capacity for inhaling and exhaling air.
  This allows me to fill my now moments with intentional gratitude and grace.  I am powerful in this awareness.
I am not looking for anything more than this moment.
Life will never stay the same for too long.  That is pretty much a guarantee.  As things shift, and so too must our perspectives and attitudes.
What was so important yesterday has lost its intensity today.
By taking on the task of finding positive peace in the ordinary and really appreciating the blessings of awareness,
I see beauty everywhere I look.
The judgement of others disappates and ceases to have power.


La Zingara is an Italian Gypsy Woman,one whose Spirit Yearns for a connectedness to the World around Her!  That’s Me!!!




7 Responses

  1. Marcia Smith

    This is, by far, one of the best writings you have posted. Likely because it touches the heart, deeply. We truly are continually learning from everyone, and everything, that is around or within us.

    Thank you for the reminder about what casting judgement does to the person casting the line. It most assuredly catches chaos, turmoil (deep within, likely without knowledge), and darkens the heart. Who wants that?! Lift each other up, or be quiet. My grandmother adhered to the rule of “If you cannot say anything nice, do not say anything at all.”. She lived to nearly 90, and not once in my lifetime did I ever hear her speak ill of another, say anything negative, at all, or judge another human life.

    Thank you for touching our world in a way that only you can do.


    • 93zingara

      I’m so glad this resonates with you! And thank you for leaving me such a beautiful comment. It is especially important that you are the first to comment. It forced me to correct my spelling error!🤩🤩🤩 Love you!

  2. Steph

    There are people in my life’s path that have betrayed me and have been beyond cruel. Your words remind me why I have, wisely, let it go…why I have decided to take the high road and focus on the positive parts of the path, and the lessons learned. Your message was perfectly perfect for me today, and I thank you.

    • 93zingara

      Perfectly perfect for me!! I adore the way you said this. I, too, have been betrayed and manipulated by people who I thought I could rely on. My one observation of this has been to take note of the human qualities I never want to list on my character resume. And move on. Positivity is a conscious choice, Good for you!

  3. Barbara

    I am at the end of removing myself from a very difficult situation. My challenge is to let it go! I am trying so hard to let go of hurt and anger at myself for not handling it better. Beautiful post

    • 93zingara

      I would like to think that the more we can tell ourselves in the mirror that we love ourselves, the easier it is to let the negative stuff go. We are not here to be perfect. We are here to Love. Ourself first. Be kind to yourself. And thank you for your lovely comment!

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